Why Am I Doing This To Myself?

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Its easy for anyone, on any sort of journey to encounter times when impatience and negativity creep in and threaten to derail, well-intentioned plans and for that little voice in your head to ask – why am i doing this to myself?

I regularly come across some real gold nuggets on a daily basis and recently a video I stumbled across really struck a chord.

You may be familiar with the very popular entrepreneur/influencer; Gary Vaynerchuk.

I watch a lot of his content as his positivity is infectious and his honest, politically incorrect approach to influencing people in the modern world is as engaging as it gets.

Recently I watched a video where Gary compared building a business and the following of your favorite sports team.

To be honest, I usually share or save video’s that stand out, but for whatever reason, I didn’t on this occasion, and Im struggling to find the content in question. 

Being a huge fan of a team that has had a huge fall down the leagues in the last few years, this struck a chord with me and I instantly could see what he was getting at.

Supporting my team is in the blood.

In It For The Long Haul

No matter how bad they are doing or what league they play in I just can’t stop following their progress in the football world.

Why is this?

Why as humans do we get pleasure out of putting ourselves through disappointment, pain, and suffering to get behind a team of highly paid individuals, some of which you don’t actually rate?

I believe the love I have for my – underachieving team, is the sense of belonging.

Holding on to the hope that one day you will witness the euphoric success and bask in the glory, rewarding you for years of support and encouragement.

No matter how bad we have played on a Saturday afternoon or how many goals have been scored against us, I soon get over the disappointment and look forward to the next opportunity, to play better and work on why we were so poor in the last match.

My team has recently dropped down to the 3rd tier of English football following back to back relegations after nearly a decade in the biggest league in world football.

Obviously, it has been heartbreaking to see our demise, but the passion and hope for a better future are as strong as ever for me and I still count down the days to matchday – whatever that may bring.

Looking at things from an entrepreneurs perspective, the correlation between supporting your team and building your own business, in my opinion, is very similar. 

Being a fan of your team and building/running a business draw the same sort of emotions. 

  • Excitement 
  • Disappointment 
  • Joy 
  • Nervousness 
  • Despair 

Still fresh in the world of online business, I see on a daily basis many individuals who are not enjoying their journey and are constantly seeking shortcuts with only one thing in mind MONEY.

Sure, there’s nothing wrong with being driven by the freedom, money can provide, but if everybody were to enjoy what they do and embrace the journey that little bit more, I believe more people would see success in their life.

Getting back to the sports analogy, something i’ve always failed to understand are “glory supporters”

Those “fans” who latch on to the successful teams with the big money and the best players, just so they can be seen to be following the best.

Most glory fans will know very little of the clubs history and the real passion will not exist for them. 

As soon as the going gets tough they easily switch off and don’t have that gut-wrenching feeling of disappointment and heartache

I acknowledge that the wording used here may seem dramatic to those who are not into sports and don’t follow a team – I will assume that if you are still reading – you get it.

I find the comparison between entrepreneurship and “Being a fan” fascinating. 

At times I want to tear my own hair out with frustration – BUT I LOVE IT!

On many occasions my optimism is shattered – BUT I LOVE IT!

There have been many occasions when I have “wasted money” – STILL, LOVE IT!

I have muttered to myself on numerous occasions – Why am I doing this to myself?

The Journey Is What Its All About

Are you enjoying your journey – whatever that is?

Do you have a “job” which you are getting something out of?

Do you have a “career” where you are constantly driven by the next promotion and higher pay grade?

Are you currently traveling after years of saving and is it all that you hoped it would be?

The reason I ask is that for many of my earlier adult years I wasn’t enjoying my “journey” and felt as though I was simply – going through the motions.

Looking back on my earlier adult years the days of the week just seemed to roll into one and I just couldn’t fit in to the 9-5 world. 

Being brutally honest with myself I was partly to blame for the years wasted in  jobs which gave me absolutely no desire to progress and move up the ladder.

Before I realized what was happening I was a married 30-year-old with a young son, mortgage and mounting debts, accrued due to simply – “not cutting my cloth to fit”. 

Although my earlier adult years were not the most sucessful I don’t look back with any regret as I believe they have shaped me to the person I’am today. 

Now, that doesn’t mean I am now a massive success. Nowhere near to be honest, however. 

I have learned to embrace the day to day and now being involved in something which interests me and can provide anyone with the same opportunities, is exciting and keeps me ticking. 

Glory Supporter vs Loyal Fan 

Similar to the mindset of the “glory supporter” I found that the work I was doing as an employee, just wasn’t lighting a fire under my backside. 

I didn’t really care about the overall success of the massive company I was working for and was only showing up for the Paycheck at the end of the month so I could pay my bills and debts. 

At the end of the day, I was just a number which could be easily replaced and I felt genuinely resentful to the company which was stealing my precious time away.

I acknowledge that to many this mindset and attitude will come across as lazy and obnoxious, but I know that many people feel the same and struggle to stay positive living this sort of life. 

My current path in life is one which gives me similar emotions to being a loyal fan. 

Although the journey is far from perfect and at times I question my sanity, I’am excited by the future and what may lie ahead.

I’m under no illusion that it all could come crashing down and I could end up back at square one.

However, these days I tend to focus on what could go right, over, what could go wrong.

I find that trying to build something which is my own is rewarding in itself, and the possibility of a future of financial freedom is an added bonus at this point in my journey.

Anything Can Happen

Like being a fan of your team, building an online business can throw up absolutely anything, at any time. 

I never stop learning and looking back on when I first started 9 months ago to learn and build a website which can help others, I have come along way. 

Like my team who over the last couple of years have gone through a massive transformation and rebuilding plan, sticking with your journey and taking the good with the bad is vital to gaining momentum and keeping the dream alive. 

For me the unknown is exciting and the education I am gaining online is fundamental for success and to help others like me who may have lost their spark. 

Time To Re-ignite your spark

The website you are reading this article on is less than 1 year old and before a single line of content was written, I didn’t have a clue where or how to get started with an online business.

In truth when I was researching the possibility of working from home and hopefully one day being able to make a living from it, I was sceptical it was actually possible for someone like me to build and sustain an online business. 

The reality is, anyone who is prepared to learn, and stick with their journey through the bad and good times can see some success.

If you a curious to learn a little more on the opportunities the online world can give you, please take advantage of 7 days FREE access to the platform I use on a daily basis to learn and grow my online business. 

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Please feel free to ask me any questions or even just stop by for a chat. (Promise to stay away from football if it’s not your thing) 😉

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7 thoughts on “Why Am I Doing This To Myself?

  1. Thanks for sharing, this is a really inspiring post Lee. 

    I think for me you have to be in it for long haul, but you have to be in because you love or care about it. (like the love for your team) When I first started blogging with hardly any success I thought…why am I doing this to myself! It’s frustrating but you grow to love it, especially if you are talking about stuff you are interested in yourself. Keep up the good work Lee and thanks for inspiring me. 


    1. massive thanks Jamie. Really hope I can help others find a more rewarding path. all the best to you on your journey. 

  2. A really well done article. Good job. I love the comparison, to a favorite sports team. You never give up on your team so why give up so easily on yourself. I think this time I am on the right path to online earning and it is because of wealthy affiliate. There success plan does work you just have to push yourself and follow through. I am taking the blogging skills I learned with wealthy affiliate to offer freelance writing services and I LOVE IT!  Keep up the good work! 🙂

    1. Thanks Ruth. Its been a real eye opener for me the last year whilst using the platform. all the best with your journey. you are welcome back anytime. 

  3. I can feel the passion that is expressed in your article. I too can relate to that passion for things one cares deeply about even when they do not seem to be going your way. But as you say, the journey is what it is all about and hopefully we eventually find our true path.

  4. it is easy to ask ourselves why we do the things we do to ourselves. I think most humans have a need to continue to learn and grow. Creating a business online seems so simple in theory but it is a lot of work. We find inspiration in the darnedest places so I am happy to hear you found a place to help facilitate your passion., Keep up the good work

  5. I can feel the passion that you have for your team in your article. I too can relate to that passion for things one cares deeply about even when they do not seem to be going your way. As you say, the journey is what it’s all about and hopefully we eventually find our true path.

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