Why Am I Doing This To Myself?

Its easy for anyone, on any sort of journey to encounter times when impatience and negativity creep in and threaten to derail, well-intentioned plans and for that little voice in your head to ask – why am i doing this to myself?

I regularly come across some real gold nuggets on a daily basis and recently a video I stumbled across really struck a chord.

You may be familiar with the very popular entrepreneur/influencer; Gary Vaynerchuk.

I watch a lot of his content as his positivity is infectious and his honest, politically incorrect approach to influencing people in the modern world is as engaging as it gets.

Recently I watched a video where Gary compared building a business and the following of your favorite sports team.

To be honest, I usually share or save video’s that stand out, but for whatever reason, I didn’t on this occasion, and Im struggling to find the content in question. 

Being a huge fan of a team that has had a huge fall down the leagues in the last few years, this struck a chord with me and I instantly could see what he was getting at.

Supporting my team is in the blood.

In It For The Long Haul

No matter how bad they are doing or what league they play in I just can’t stop following their progress in the football world.

Why is this?

Why as humans do we get pleasure out of putting ourselves through disappointment, pain, and suffering to get behind a team of highly paid individuals, some of which you don’t actually rate?

I believe the love I have for my – underachieving team, is the sense of belonging.

Holding on to the hope that one day you will witness the euphoric success and bask in the glory, rewarding you for years of support and encouragement.

No matter how bad we have played on a Saturday afternoon or how many goals have been scored against us, I soon get over the disappointment and look forward to the next opportunity, to play better and work on why we were so poor in the last match.

My team has recently dropped down to the 3rd tier of English football following back to back relegations after nearly a decade in the biggest league in world football.

Obviously, it has been heartbreaking to see our demise, but the passion and hope for a better future are as strong as ever for me and I still count down the days to matchday – whatever that may bring.

Looking at things from an entrepreneurs perspective, the correlation between supporting your team and building your own business, in my opinion, is very similar. 

Being a fan of your team and building/running a business draw the same sort of emotions. 

  • Excitement 
  • Disappointment 
  • Joy 
  • Nervousness 
  • Despair 

Still fresh in the world of online business, I see on a daily basis many individuals who are not enjoying their journey and are constantly seeking shortcuts with only one thing in mind MONEY.

Sure, there’s nothing wrong with being driven by the freedom, money can provide, but if everybody were to enjoy what they do and embrace the journey that little bit more, I believe more people would see success in their life.

Getting back to the sports analogy, something i’ve always failed to understand are “glory supporters”

Those “fans” who latch on to the successful teams with the big money and the best players, just so they can be seen to be following the best.

Most glory fans will know very little of the clubs history and the real passion will not exist for them. 

As soon as the going gets tough they easily switch off and don’t have that gut-wrenching feeling of disappointment and heartache

I acknowledge that the wording used here may seem dramatic to those who are not into sports and don’t follow a team – I will assume that if you are still reading – you get it.

I find the comparison between entrepreneurship and “Being a fan” fascinating. 

At times I want to tear my own hair out with frustration – BUT I LOVE IT!

On many occasions my optimism is shattered – BUT I LOVE IT!

There have been many occasions when I have “wasted money” – STILL, LOVE IT!

I have muttered to myself on numerous occasions – Why am I doing this to myself?

The Journey Is What Its All About

Are you enjoying your journey – whatever that is?

Do you have a “job” which you are getting something out of?

Do you have a “career” where you are constantly driven by the next promotion and higher pay grade?

Are you currently traveling after years of saving and is it all that you hoped it would be?

The reason I ask is that for many of my earlier adult years I wasn’t enjoying my “journey” and felt as though I was simply – going through the motions.

Looking back on my earlier adult years the days of the week just seemed to roll into one and I just couldn’t fit in to the 9-5 world. 

Being brutally honest with myself I was partly to blame for the years wasted in  jobs which gave me absolutely no desire to progress and move up the ladder.

Before I realized what was happening I was a married 30-year-old with a young son, mortgage and mounting debts, accrued due to simply – “not cutting my cloth to fit”. 

Although my earlier adult years were not the most sucessful I don’t look back with any regret as I believe they have shaped me to the person I’am today. 

Now, that doesn’t mean I am now a massive success. Nowhere near to be honest, however. 

I have learned to embrace the day to day and now being involved in something which interests me and can provide anyone with the same opportunities, is exciting and keeps me ticking. 

Glory Supporter vs Loyal Fan 

Similar to the mindset of the “glory supporter” I found that the work I was doing as an employee, just wasn’t lighting a fire under my backside. 

I didn’t really care about the overall success of the massive company I was working for and was only showing up for the Paycheck at the end of the month so I could pay my bills and debts. 

At the end of the day, I was just a number which could be easily replaced and I felt genuinely resentful to the company which was stealing my precious time away.

I acknowledge that to many this mindset and attitude will come across as lazy and obnoxious, but I know that many people feel the same and struggle to stay positive living this sort of life. 

My current path in life is one which gives me similar emotions to being a loyal fan. 

Although the journey is far from perfect and at times I question my sanity, I’am excited by the future and what may lie ahead.

I’m under no illusion that it all could come crashing down and I could end up back at square one.

However, these days I tend to focus on what could go right, over, what could go wrong.

I find that trying to build something which is my own is rewarding in itself, and the possibility of a future of financial freedom is an added bonus at this point in my journey.

Anything Can Happen

Like being a fan of your team, building an online business can throw up absolutely anything, at any time. 

I never stop learning and looking back on when I first started 9 months ago to learn and build a website which can help others, I have come along way. 

Like my team who over the last couple of years have gone through a massive transformation and rebuilding plan, sticking with your journey and taking the good with the bad is vital to gaining momentum and keeping the dream alive. 

For me the unknown is exciting and the education I am gaining online is fundamental for success and to help others like me who may have lost their spark. 

Time To Re-ignite your spark

The website you are reading this article on is less than 1 year old and before a single line of content was written, I didn’t have a clue where or how to get started with an online business.

In truth when I was researching the possibility of working from home and hopefully one day being able to make a living from it, I was sceptical it was actually possible for someone like me to build and sustain an online business. 

The reality is, anyone who is prepared to learn, and stick with their journey through the bad and good times can see some success.

If you a curious to learn a little more on the opportunities the online world can give you, please take advantage of 7 days FREE access to the platform I use on a daily basis to learn and grow my online business. 

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Please feel free to ask me any questions or even just stop by for a chat. (Promise to stay away from football if it’s not your thing) 😉

Experience With Wealthy Affiliate

After just recently passing the 6 months mark as a paying member with this educational and service providing platform, I feel I am now more qualified to share a more detailed experience with wealthy affiliate.

As my vision to build a brand where transparency and integrity are at the top of the pile, I will leave nothing out for my own benefit and hope to be as detailed as possible, so you can make an informed decision as to whether or not this platform is for you.

I stumbled across this platform after engaging with an Instagram post which caught my attention at the beginning of the year. I was drawn in by the word “university” as at the time I was really keen to expand my knowledge of the online world in the hope it could lead to me realising a dream, of living life on my terms, whilst providing value to others. 

Ever the sceptic, as someone who has had run-ins with some very shady characters online, I proceeded with caution at first and didn’t even set up my free account for a week or so. During this time I scoured the net for feedback and reviews on this platform and it didn’t take too long to have full confidence that the platform was legit and I had a green light to try it out for free. 

Free Account Set up

Firstly I want to stress that to use this platform you do not require any experience with affiliate marketing as the courses teach you everything you need to see results. Sure, you will need access to a laptop or computer and a basic knowledge of how to use it will help, however, this platform is newbie friendly and if you do get stuck there’s always someone to ask for help. 

Setting up the free account does not require any bank/credit card details whatsoever and I had full access to my starter account instantly. At first, I was a little overwhelmed as to where to start as there is a lot of information on the platform to sink your teeth into. I decided to take my time and have a good look around the site and took advantage of the live chat facility and engaged with other users.

What is Wealthy Affiliate All About?

Wealthy affiliate provides you with an abundance of tools, training and support, to walk you through, the building of your very own online business.

As a member for 6 months, I have barely touched the surface with the training available to me. I admit I could have achieved more in the last 6 months if I didn’t allow my head to be turned by other programs and methods to try and accelerate my success. 

As the day’s tick by it becomes more and more clear that if you are serious about building a business online you need to be patient and be prepared to learn – reading, watching video tutorials, listening to advice from experienced affiliate marketers should be embraced if you are to see success from this platform.  

There are a number of directions you can choose when it comes to affiliate marketing and wealthy affiliate can support you on whichever path you choose to take.

Maybe you already have an idea for a website but don’t know where to start, or you are just desperate to live life on your own terms creating your own personal brand, sharing your ideas, vision and providing value to the online world

Affiliate Marketing Explained For Newbies

Ok, so what exactly is affiliate marketing and how can it make you money?

Affiliate marketing gives anyone the opportunity to get a slice of the online pie, by essentially pointing online users in the direction of a product or service they are interested in purchasing. 

Most companies these days have an affiliate program which essentially gives you your own tools to sell their products and be paid commissions on everything you sell via you affiliate link. 

This can be physical products or digital products such as computer software and educational training modules.  

Now, its important to understand that its not a simple case of plastering your affiliate links all over Facebook and hoping for the sales to start rolling in. 

The idea behind affiliate marketing is to create engaging, helpful content online, worthy of your audience attention which results in them buying through you. 

How Do I Create “Content”? 

In 2018 there are more ways than ever you can showcase yourself and develop a personal brand you can use to generate passive income. 

  • Blogging – Setting up a blog, like the one you are reading now can be an engaging, entertaining way to captivate an audience and gain trust in your market space. 
  • Vlogging – Don’t worry if you don’t consider yourself to be a writer. Although this is something you can develop and get better at over time, you may be more confident in front of the camera, creating videos and setting up a youtube channel to build a following. 
  • Write an Ebook – You may have the knowledge in your chosen niche to write a book which educates or entertains your audience, again, potentially resulting in healthy commisions hitting your account on a monthly basis. 

This day and age there is so much opportunity to build a personal brand and showcase yourself to a worldwide audience.

The training and support needed to learn how to do this is all at your disposal within wealthy affiliate. 

Don’t Bother If You Are Not Prepared To Learn 

On speaking to a few people outside of the wealthy affiliate platform, who were once members and quit after a few months, it soon became clear they simply weren’t prepared to put in the work and learn, continuing to search for that (non-existent) get rich quick method. 

This platform provides you with the training, support and tools to develop and grow your own online business, the only catch is – you need patience and a desire to take action on your learnings.

we live in an era of massive opportunity but nothing will ever be handed to you on a plate. If you are moaning about your job and detest living in a 9-5 world then you need to be willing to take advantage of the education available to you, which you can embrace from the comfort of your own home. The question is, are you committed enough to see it through?

Have I Seen A Return On My Investment yet?

Not yet. I was talking to someone online recently who was asking questions about wealthy affiliate and the first thing she asked was “have you seen a return on your investment?” In truth, I decided to stop thinking about money months ago simply because I still consider myself to be on a learning journey. 

Sure, I hold my hands up, I could have made more progress if I had worked harder and created more content. There are many members who are making A substantial monthly income months into their membership, then there are others who have been members for years and make very little.

The bottom line is, it all comes down to you. How fast you start to see results all depends on the work you are prepared to put in and the desire you have to shape your own future.

If someone offers you an amazing opportunity but you are not sure you can do it, say yes – then learn how to do it later

Richard Branson 

Everything In One Place

Something which stands out for me with this platform is the fact I have everything I need to learn and build my online business in one place. When first starting out as a newbie, I was surprised how quickly into the journey I was actually building my own website – all of which is done right within wealthy affiliate.

Even if you are unsure which direction/niche you choose to pursue, setting up the initial framework of any website is a great place to start and will give you the momentum and drive to keep moving forward and progress with your vision. 

The video tutorials literally walk you through the courses and you can pause and rewind as many times as you wish, should something not sink in straight away. 

For me, after about 3 months as a member I did find myself straying away from the teachings in wealthy affiliate, however, looking back all this did was to derail my progress and I always found myself back on track within wealthy affiliate.

Sure, I have made connections outside of the platform which has helped me on my way, but I see wealthy affiliate as my base to continue learning and as the main hub for my online journey.  

Is Premium Really Worth It?

Being a member for 6 months, of course i’am going to say I believe its money well spent, however, depending on how you choose to approach this and what your expectations are, the question is do you think you can afford not to have access to unlimited training and support?

If you have read this far then I’m assuming you are not looking to “get rich quick” as hopefully, I have been clear that using this platform – even in the correct way, will not provide over-night success. 

In reality, to further your education and achieve any qualifications you must be prepared to face costs along the way. In my honest opinion, I believe that the premium option to this platform is worth more than the $49 per month I continue to pay. Saying that it’s not for everyone and being able to try the platform for free gives you the chance to make an informed decision on where you go with your journey.